We can find it hard not to feel a little despondent. What do we have to celebrate, after all? We’re still alive, and that’s probably good, but we may have days we almost wish we weren’t. We’re still dealing with pain, we haven’t found the answers, and our healing is moving way to slowly, if at all. How long can this go on?
I'm Letting Things Slide Off My Plate
Instead of asking ourselves why we’re not further along, why it seems like we’re stuck in the same place (or even worse off), maybe we need to take stock differently.
Maybe it isn’t how much more we can do, but how much less we demand of ourselves. Wouldn't that be different?
Because for most of us in pain, we're already doing everything we can to heal. Maybe it's not so much about adding things onto our plate that we hope to accomplish this year in the realms of healing, but letting things slide off that no longer serve us.
Is This Really a Beginning?
- Self recrimination & self doubt.
- Anything and everything about being a better person or pleasing others that really doesn’t serve my need to rest and take care of myself.
- My schedule for healing, and hence, my disappointments when it hasn't happened by a certain time.
Here’s my list of what I'm adding in this year:
- More kindness toward myself
- More real, deep rest (giving myself permission to do nothing a lot more often)
- More self appreciation (living in pain is hard, I’m already doing great just getting up in the morning!)
Let’s make 2018 easier on ourselves by allowing some of our “have to’s” to fall away and only adding in what truly serves us as we move through this demanding and complex journey of healing our pain. Yes, this can be a new year for us too, if we choose.