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The Separate World of People in Chronic Pain

7/18/2018

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This article appeared in its original form in this blog as "Life on Planet Pain" (2/4/16) and in The Mighty as
"The Separate 'Planet' We Live on As People in Chronic Pain" (6/9/18)

Living with chronic pain is like living on another planet with a completely different atmosphere.

Other pains can usually be pointed to or clearly described. They are polite enough to stay within certain physical or emotional confines, and have a reasonable shelf life.

Chronic pain, on the other hand simply refuses to leave, and often roams around the body wherever it pleases.

To add insult to injury, instead of keeping within the physical body, it sort of oozes out of its original borders and takes over more and more of the territory of experience, eventually seeping through and soaking into the entire fabric of one’s existence.

Pain Becomes the House We Live In

What was originally on the inside, now feels like its taken over the outside, too. Like you are within it, instead of it within you. At that point, pain isn’t just here or there, it’s everywhere.

It’s really very strange, and challenging to explain to others who haven’t had the experience. It’s like nothing else. Sometimes it feels like an unwanted house guest who never leaves, but eventually it feels like the house itself.

You’re surrounded by a field of pain and everything you see, do, hear, express, or receive must pass through the ever-present fog of the pain zone. I think this might be the most difficult thing for others to understand.

Pain is no longer just part of our experience of life. Life must now take place completely immersed within it.

Too Late For A Band Aid

I think this is one reason it’s so hard to find treatments and modalities that actually work for chronic pain. It’s complex and has become interwoven with the whole self and the whole body and the whole nervous system and everything that is offered is just way too small, or too specialized, or too directed to a single aspect of this all-encompassing thing, called chronic pain.

It’s sort of like calling in the plumber to fix the leak in the kitchen sink when the whole house has just fallen off a cliff.

The well-meaning plumber focuses on the kitchen sink and says, here, let’s change the washers or whatever and you’re living in this disaster of a house that needs all kinds of different and simultaneous attentions and the plumber just can’t see past the broken faucet.

Or something like that.

Looking for the Door that Lets Pain Out

I’m looking for the door that lets the pain out, like on a spaceship and you open it and everything is sucked right out — the whole atmosphere of planet pain – and then you get to close the door and start over.

But I think the door I’m looking for doesn’t open out like that, it opens in.

Anyway, I’ll let you know as soon as I’ve found it.

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Sarah Anne Shockley has lived with nerve pain from Thoracic Outlet Syndrome since 2007. She  is the author of The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living with and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain (New World Library June, 2018).

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4 Comments
Debra Dolan
7/19/2018 08:11:14 pm

Thank you, as always, for these posts. They seem to arrive at just the right time for me ... Best wishes.

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Sarah link
7/19/2018 08:24:24 pm

I'm so glad, Debra, and you're welcome! xo Sarah

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Tamara
7/20/2018 05:21:01 pm

Sarah, I'm so glad that I met you back in Santa Rosa in 2014.. I have followed you and had you by my side ever since. In 2015, I took you and your words of wisdom with me to live in Spain. I know that you truly understand and will never give up helping follow souls on this particular journey. When I read your blogs, I don't feel like such an alien on another planet.
xo
Tamara

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Sarah link
7/20/2018 06:27:09 pm

Tamara, I was so touched by what you wrote! So glad my writing is helpful to you. We're all in this together. xo Sarah

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