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Magical Thinking Is Not Enough To End Chronic Pain

8/10/2016

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While the New Age movement certainly has at its core a plethora of valuable ideas that can help humanity, some of these ideas are not always entirely supportive of those of us in chronic pain - at least not at the superficial level most often touted by New Age evangelists and motivational speakers.
 
We are lead to believe that if we can only think positively enough, visualize enough, and do enough affirmations, we will end our pain. That's the way it's supposed to work. Right?

Clap Your Hands And Believe

Um…well…
 
When I contracted my painful condition I was working in a metaphysical bookstore. I had a library of New Age books on my own shelves at home, and all of them were well read from cover to cover.  I could meditate, visualize, create intentions, and do affirmations with the best of them. These techniques had all been wonderful boons at various times and helped me create loads of great experiences. But…
 
None of these things helped my pain once I was injured.
 
Not one.
 
And, because New Age magical thinking says you can change anything, and this belief is becoming part of our collective consciousness, those of us who live with conditions that simply don’t improve, often feel like we've screwed up somehow. Why isn't it working for us?


Nice Ideas...For Some

So let’s look at two main tenets of the New Age which are becoming more and more popular and, therefore, increasingly part of our collective ideas about reality:

1) If you think positively you can have anything you want.
2) Sickness and pain result from negativity and/or denial of Spirit.
 
Okay. Guess what? These tenets are fairly useless when you’re in deep pain. Or, let’s put it differently. These ideas may have some truth in them, but neither of them are the whole truth.
 
1) If You Think Positively, You Can Have Anything: It's a nice thought, I just haven’t seen it work that well with chronic pain.
 
I’m all for thinking positively, just don’t tell me I’m in pain because I’m not doing enough of it. For those of us who find ourselves living with physical pain, thinking positively is exhausting. It’s really hard to get fired up with positive thoughts when you can barely stay in your body. 
 
I don't know how any of the top New Age gurus would fare if they were plunked down in the middle of my life at the worst of my pain. It’s incredibly challenging just to live through it, let alone drum up some magical positive thoughts.
 
And, thinking positively for someone in chronic pain looks different than for someone whose body works. Positive thinking for someone in chronic pain doesn’t look like leaping through fields of daisies. It looks like deciding to keep going another day with as much dignity as you can muster.
 
2) All Pain is the Result of Negativity and/or Denial of Spirit: Most of us in pain go through times when we’re angry with Spirit, God, Creator, or whatever term we use for the divine being, but it doesn’t mean we’re in denial of our spiritual selves.
 
Many of us in pain have had to find a way to get closer than ever to the spiritual aspects of Self and Life in order to carry on. We have had to dig more deeply, believe more strongly, and pull up more faith and hope from within the depths of ourselves to get through one day than many people need in a year. 

And, one could ask, who is in more denial? The one who lives with their pain and dances with it in it the best, most positive, way they can, or the one who tells us to wish it away through magical thinking and affirmations?


You're On A Different Path, Not The Wrong Path

So, it seems to me, that while New Age positive and magical thinking is great sometimes, it’s simply not the whole story. It doesn’t include the fact that sometimes we’re in a situation for reasons that our rational mind, our everyday consciousness, just can’t grasp. And, try as we might to "positive" ourselves out of it, it does seem that some of us are simply on a part of our journey that includes pain, and that’s not a mistake.
 
As with the journey through grief, or the journey through birthing a baby, ours is a journey that also includes a level of deep pain for the time being. But that does not make it any less sacred, less true, or less valid than any other path.
 
Because, as far as I can see, healing chronic pain is not about trying to magic it away. It’s not so much about constantly seeking a way to get around it, as it is living with as much grace as possible while living through it and all the way out to the other side.

Image: The Crystal Ball, John William Waterhouse, 1902 (Wikimedia Commons)

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Sarah Anne Shockley is the author of The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom For Living With and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain and Living Better While Living With Pain. She is a staff columnist for Pain News Network.

4 Comments
Heather Jacobs
8/11/2016 04:24:02 pm

Very correct. Spiritual journey never ends. Neither does the process, you dance. Then the next day, you face it all over again. You try and live as normal as possible. You try to keep up with life and not be the constant complainer who can't do this or this.

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Sarah link
8/11/2016 09:01:59 pm

So true, Heather. There seems to be no time when you've "got" how to live with pain - as you say, it's a daily dance. Thanks for your comment.

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Meshea Crysup link
8/18/2016 11:00:30 am

This applies to traditional religion as well. "If you REALLY believed, then God would heal you of that!" or "Stop SPEAKING THAT over yourself" as if saying out loud what the truth is causes it in the first place. I am religious, I do believe in positive thinking, affirmations, etc. but NO they are not MAGICAL. Great article!

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Sarah link
8/20/2016 04:50:42 pm

Yes, totally, Meshea, I agree with your observations on traditional religion. And, yes, I also do believe in positive thinking, and our healing approach to healing can certainly include INCLUDE positive thinking, but probably isn't limited to that and no one should be blamed for not having healed already. Exactly. Thanks for your comment!

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